Too often this tendency pops up around some uncomfortable topics:
- She died of lung cancer, but she smoked and I don’t, so I’ll be fine.
- He committed suicide, but he must have just given up trying. I’ll be fine.
- They got divorced, but I never liked them together anyway. My marriage will be fine.
We hurry to uncover causality and assign blame in an almost instinctive way to protect ourselves from similar fates; in doing so, we often alienate those who would often be greatly helped by human connection and support.
Jesus is traveling with his disciples when a Canaanite woman confronts them somewhat abruptly, screaming, “Have mercy on me, Lord, Son of David; my daughter is tormented by a demon.” To maintain social norms, Jesus ignores the woman—the disciples want her sent away as she keeps shouting. Not only is she a Canaanite and a woman, but she is shouting at this group of respectable men. Continue reading